Ep. 54: The River of Misery

The River of Misery is what I call that transition place between where you are now and where you want to get to in your life.

Becoming a new version of yourself, or even just a better dancer, requires some hard work. Your brain has to work harder to break old habits and patterns and create new ones. So it tries to stop you and keep you where you are.

The River of Misery feels like work.

And there’s a lot of back-and-forth. There will be good days, and successes, but also times where old habits and patterns reappear. If you don’t know that you are in the River of Misery, you might think you are backsliding or doing it wrong, or not committed. You might beat yourself up for not doing it perfectly 100% of the time. But that’s all part of the process. That’s how it goes. And if you know that, then you can be proud of your successes, and discount your failures. You can forgive yourself sooner and continue to move forward

That River of Misery, that process, is the refiners fire that creates the new you. It’s the reason growth is so satisfying. It’s the reason you feel accomplished and gain confidence. You can’t skip over it. So embrace it. Because when you get there, you’ve earned it.

And that doesn’t feel like misery.

It feels AMAZING! And it’s totally worth it.

Not to worry, I’ve got your back. I know how to handle it because I’m working through it too.

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I'm Amber haider

As an amateur ballroom dancer myself, I understand the issues that come up for dancers, the pressures of competing, and the desire to make the most of my ballroom experience. I also really like to WIN! As a Life Coach by vocation, I have the tools to cut through the mental garbage that is holding you back so that you can maximize your potential. Using my own tools, I have been able to skyrocket my own skills, learn faster, lessen the pressure, win more and have tons more fun. I can show you the way. Here’s a couple tools to get you started:

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