This weekend was a little rough, emotionally. It was a little up-and-down.
But that’s how it goes. Sometimes life is up, sometimes life is down. Sometimes it’s both all in one day. And that’s OK.
When things aren’t great, and we think that is a problem, or there’s something wrong with that, then we just compound the problem.
But if we understand that sometimes things don’t go the way we want, and we don’t make it mean something has gone terribly wrong, we can save ourselves from unnecessary suffering.
I’m an extrovert and I love being with people. Staying home and being isolated is hard for me. It feels really uncomfortable. I feel sad and irritated because I can’t have what I want right now.
That alone is tough. Now if I add on top of that the thought that I shouldn’t feel sad and irritated, that I should just accept what is going on, and why can’t I just be content at home, and don’t I care about the well being of others?! Well, now I’ve increased the negativity in the whole experience. That second part, that seems to often start with “should” or “shouldn’t” is all unnecessary.
I can just be sad. Of course I’m sad! I want to be with people and go places. I want my autonomy. I can experience these emotions and I want them. It makes sense that I feel the way I do, so I let them be there. I take deep breaths and make the best of it. I accept and welcome the negative emotions that come with this situation.
We can’t have one without the other: positive and negative, good and bad, sick and well, happy and sad…this is the human experience. It’s 50/50.
I’m in for all of it. Because experiencing the downs make the ups all the more sweet.
I can teach you how to coach yourself through all this. Get on a mini session and I’ll get you started.
